Talking about domestic abuse can feel overwhelming. You may worry about not being believed, have anxiety about someone’s opinion of you changing, fear what might happen next or feel unsure where to start. You do not have to share everything at once. Taking the first step is enough.
Choose someone you trust
This could be a friend, family member, colleague or professional. Think about someone who will listen without judging you and who will respect your wishes.
Talk to a professional
If you do not have someone you feel comfortable talking to, or you would rather speak to someone who is trained to support survivors of domestic abuse, you can contact our advice line on 0808 802 5565. Our team will listen without judgement, help you understand your options and provide confidential support at your own pace.
Pick a safe time and place
If possible, choose somewhere private where you feel comfortable and where there is no risk of being overheard by the person harming you.
Share only what feels right
You are in control of what you say. You can explain as much or as little as you want. It is okay if you are not ready to talk about everything.
Be honest about what you need
You may want someone to listen, help you think through your options or support you to access specialist services. Let them know what would help you most.
Remember you deserve support
Abuse is never your fault and you do not have to face it alone. Reaching out for support is a positive step and there are people who will believe you and help you.
If you think you or someone you know may be experiencing domestic abuse, you don’t have to go through it alone. Help and support are available.
Need support?
Solace provides expert support for women and children affected by domestic abuse in London, including counselling, advocacy, and safe housing.
