Coercive control is an ongoing pattern of behaviour used to dominate and exert power over a survivor, often leading to a loss of independence and a deep sense of isolation.
Coercive control may include:
- Constant criticism
- Monitoring movements (online or in person)
- Restricting access to money
- Isolating the person from friends or family
- Dictating how you dress or behave
- Gaslighting
- Making you feel fearful or scared of speaking up for yourself
- Preventing you from accessing support
Unlike other forms of abuse, coercive control is often subtle and can develop gradually over time. Survivors may not realise they are experiencing coercive control until they have already experienced damage to their self-esteem, independence, and mental health.
Perpetrators of coercive control often attempt to disguise their behaviour as ‘concern’ or ‘love,’ making it even harder for the survivor to recognise what’s happening.
Since 2015, coercive control has been recognised as a criminal offence in England and Wales under the Serious Crime Act. Despite this, many survivors still struggle to come forward, often out of fear, confusion, or lack of support.
If you think you or someone you know may be experiencing coercive control, it’s important to know that help is available. You are not alone, and it’s not your fault.
Need support?
Solace provides expert support for women and children affected by domestic abuse in London, including counselling, advocacy, and safe housing.
